WHAT'S YOUR VALUE?
“I just want to help” - a common statement in my profession, often matched with conflict around charging. This is my message.
Saturday I presented at a BACP Conference on Charging For Therapy. The chatbox revealed conflict of being paid for care and compassion. Some felt it hard to work out exactly how they had helped. I still feel that sometimes. It's an indication of how we take loving kindness for granted, because it feels so right and natural.
It takes a lot to get that natural. Heartache, challenge, personal development, study, practice makes us open enough to witness and reflect without judgement. You know by friends/family who seek YOU out to talk through problems -it is a rare experience to be received that way.
The value is your undivided, unbiased attention, allowing someone to lessen their self-judgement, fear and anxiety, to see themselves through your eyes as a worthy human being. Know without doubt that you are seen as worthy by them too.
How do I know? I hated the pre-record for that talk – doing it to no one, many judgements about how it came across. On the day, I had such fantastic appreciation and feedback for the many things I shared that I now take for granted.
“A wonderful human presentation”?