“I just want to help” - a common statement in my profession, often matched with conflict around charging. This is my message.

Saturday I presented at a BACP Conference on Charging For Therapy. The chatbox revealed conflict of being paid for care and compassion. Some felt it hard to work out exactly how they had helped. I still feel that sometimes. It's an indication of how we take loving kindness for granted, because it feels so right and natural.

It takes a lot to get that natural. Heartache, challenge, personal development, study, practice makes us open enough to witness and reflect without judgement. You know by friends/family who seek YOU out to talk through problems -it is a rare experience to be received that way.

The value is your undivided, unbiased attention, allowing someone to lessen their self-judgement, fear and anxiety, to see themselves through your eyes as a worthy human being. Know without doubt that you are seen as worthy by them too.

How do I know? I hated the pre-record for that talk – doing it to no one, many judgements about how it came across. On the day, I had such fantastic appreciation and feedback for the many things I shared that I now take for granted.

“A wonderful human presentation”?

"Today I competed on a new level in my public speaking and came 2nd to a world finalist. Not bad going for my first run in the competition. Thanks so much to... Cathy Towers for coaching me and all at South West Speakers" EA (Sales), Devon